Asking for Validation to Cope With Feeling Like You're Not Doing Enough

Asking for Validation to Cope With Feeling Like You're Not Doing Enough

You don’t have to wait for validation for your turn to feel. You can control how long you wait and how much you put up with while you do. Even if others need you. If you have not given to yourself, what you’re offering them is a husk of a person left after everyone else has already had their turn to pick your emotions dry.

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15 Things I Was Told I HAD To Accomplish Before 30 ... And 15 I Actually Did

15 Things I Was Told I HAD To Accomplish Before 30 ... And 15 I Actually Did

Life is full of expectations. And I think, for the longest time, I didn’t realize that many of them were not mine. As I am turning 30, I reflect on what I have accomplished so far, and naturally, beat myself up for what I haven’t. That is, until I realized that the expectations that were lacking were not things I ever wanted for myself to begin with.

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Being A Good Friend To Someone With Depression and Anxiety

Being A Good Friend To Someone With Depression and Anxiety

While I do not define myself by my diagnoses, I have found that I do better when the people surrounding me are understanding, forgiving and generally those who assume the best in others. I hope to reflect such kind traits in my own behavior too. It took a lot of thinking before I was able to identify what truly matters when it comes to building friendships.

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Why You Should Be Your Own Friend

Why You Should Be Your Own Friend

We work hard to be kind. Good people don't bully others. But it seems they often don’t mind being bullies to themselves. And that's exactly how self-loathing grows. Who enjoys spending time with someone who offers hatred and bitterness when it’s so much more pleasant to be encouraged, loved and supported? I have found that working on becoming my own friend has helped me in many ways...

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Am I Afraid of the Dark?

Am I Afraid of the Dark?

I don’t know what I am afraid of more: darkness, loneliness, or the silence they both can bring with them. Once the lights go off, my brain churns in overtime. The shadows shift into something that isn’t there, and all my biggest fears seem to be real. For me, the dark is the time for each memory to play out anew.

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