The Letter of Apology I Will Never Get From My Dad
I don’t think my father will ever be able to say the sorry I need from him to heal, so I wrote it myself, conveying it as best as I could based on what I know his capacity to be. “Every time you’ve tried to talk to me and make repairs, you’re asking for a lot of vulnerability. I can’t fix the past. I can’t fix how I’ve been. But admitting fault would mean I also have to work on myself in the future.”
Is It Ok We're Going to Couple’s Therapy?
I’d spent so much emotional effort not wanting to become my parents, especially in scenarios where my under-two-year-old child was present. Yet, here I still was, screaming at the top of my lungs in our kitchen instead of looking for common ground, practicing empathy, literally using any of my other emotional skills.
Social Media is a Highlight Reel, But Please Don't Compare Yourself
Sometimes the reason I only share the good stuff is a lot more benign. And some of it is middle-of-the-range-benign with little ways to control it.
Please Stop Sending Solutions Saying That I Can JUST Stop Having Depression
It’s often a video where someone explains how being more positive can “cure” (yes cure is a keyword in this case) depression and anxiety, or one proclaiming that really Soy, Dairy, over-the-counter Tylenol, Gluten is the main problem. The solution is always so simple. Don’t you want to “live without Depression”?
Am I sure I have ADHD? How I remembered I was neurodivergent and learned Self-Compassion Again.
That’s it. No more just maybe figuring it out when it comes to living with myself. I can’t. And it’s ok BECAUSE I know I’m neurodivergent. I have ADHD. I honestly, truly, pretended so good that I don’t in front of others that I forgot for a moment. Or 2 Years. Or I just wanted to forget so that it would be easier. But it made is so, so, so much harder. Mxiety has ADHD and that’s how it is.
What The World Needs for Mental Health Advocacy Has Changed: A 6 Years Retrospective
This World Mental Health Day marks the 6 year anniversary of starting Mxiety as a blog with live streams dedicated to advocating for openness in mental health. Inevitably, this means nostalgia, introspection, and thoughts about the future have made home in my mind for the time being. Here they are laid out to make sense from
Authenticity Means Something Different to Everyone
I feel like Authenticity is the new buzzword experts love to sell as the social media growth hack with little specifics as to what it means. Here’s my take…
Comparing Yourself and Caring Too Much? It Might Be Emotional Fatigue
Emotional fatigue is a syndrome that comes from having too many things that require an emotional response from you happening in a short period of time. It’s also been called “compassion fatigue” and the symptoms very much intersect with those of depression.
The Mental Health Concerns of Online Content Creators on Social Media
“The mental health risks people take in being an online personality become more prominent as their popularity grows. There is a lot of pressure to be “on,” be “perfect,” and be everything your audience wants you to be. You feel pressure to give them what you know they want - more content - and the hunger for that content never ends.”