Interviews With BeccPlays and Grant Ellis

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This week we had two guests with two sets incredible information as a result.

First. I am sure you’ve heard of Dungeon’s and Dragons, but can you fathom that someone could make a living out of creating incredible table top experiences? Moreover, he makes them with mental health awareness in mind, as a survivor of assault himself? Grant Ellis does just that. He shared his journey, and his resolution to make others smile in the world. He then responded to numerous questions about tabletop gaming, inclusivity and promoting a positive atmosphere for all players everywhere. He described his life mottoes and was an all around incredible guest.

You can learn more about him here:

Then on Thursday we saw Beccplays again! You may remember her from our episode on impostor syndrome. Well, she’s back and bravely chose to share about how she experienced experienced gaslighting with someone she believed to be a friend. It’s been over a year and she's finally ready to tell her story to help prepare others, explaining the signs, the warnings and how you can heal once the contact is ceased.

Go listen and then check out Becc on Twitter and Twitch

Thank you for stopping by to check out these sources and don’t forget to #bethelight


References For Grant Ellis Episode:
Blackmon, WD. Dungeons and Dragons: The Use of a Fantasy Game in the Psychotherapeutic Treatment of a Young Adult. Online: Apr 2018.

Raghuraman, R. S. (2000). Dungeons and Dragons: Dealing with emotional and behavioral issues of an adolescent with diabetes. The Arts in Psychotherapy, 27(1), 27-39.

References For Beccplays Episode:

Abramson, K. (2014), TURNING UP THE LIGHTS ON GASLIGHTING. Philosophical Perspectives, 28: 1-30. doi:10.1111/phpe.12046

Reviewed by: David NS, Psy.D. Wiki How: How to Recover from Gaslighting. Wiki. Accessed Sept 18, 2018

Dashnaw D. Gaslighting and Marital Conflict. Couples Therapy Inc. Accessed Sept 18, 2018.

Greenberg, E Ph.D. Are You Being "Gaslighted" By the Narcissist in Your Life? 7 signs that your partner is feeding your self-doubt on purpose. Psychology Today. Sep 03, 2017.

Robin Stern R, Ph.D. Are You Being Gaslighted? Are you in a gaslighting relationship? Here is how to tell. 200. Accessed Sept 18, 2018.

Families and Mental Illness

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This was a huge topic to cover, and I hope we did a good job discussing one of it’s facets: how our relationships with family have been affected by our mental illness.

Folks in chat shared their experience with being accepted within their family, but many found that they were not. We learned about some parents who just weren’t sure what to do but loved their children unconditionally none-the-less. While others just gave the old “don’t be lazy” speech and called it a day.

The most important conclusion of all was that if your blood family does not accept you for who you are, you can go out and find your own people to become your true family.

More Updates:

  1. I was recently published on The Mighty and you can read that piece here

  2. Then learn more about ‘s mission to understand what it means for me to have been named an ambassador.

  3. I have also joined the incredible Heart Support stream team. Learn more about HeartSupport.

Thank you for all of your unrelenting support and love all this time. Thank you for Being My Light. I hope I can continue to be yours for years to come.




Upthegrove, R; Marwaha, S; M Birchwood, M. Depression and Schizophrenia: Cause, Consequence, or Trans-diagnostic Issue?, Schizophrenia Bulletin, Volume 43, Issue 2, 1 March 2017, Pages 240–244,

Lasherbrook, A. Treating Teens’ Depression May Be Great for Parents’ Mental Health, Too: Early evidence suggests that treatment has a ripple effect in families. The Atlantic. Aug 11, 2018.

Chatterjee, R. Treating Teen Depression Might Improve Mental Health Of Parents, Too. NPR. Aug 12, 2018.

Kennedy, R. Bad day or childhood depression? Signs every parent should know. The AJC. Aug 21, 2018

Anderson, K. I Thought I Had A Handle On Motherhood, Until the Darkness Of Depression Snuck Up On Me. Babble, A Disney Blog.

What Is the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual) And Who Doesn't Like It?

What Is the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual) And Who Doesn't Like It?

This week for our mental health topic, we learned about the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) and it's transformation over the years. The criticisms it's faced, the language it's adjusted and all the fun stuff that brings to us modern psychology diagnosis.

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Yami Kawaii - Sick Cute - What Is It and Does It Glamorize Suicide?

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We're back to making short video edits! These will be quick summary videos in case you don't have time to watch a whole episode but want to learn more on a topic! Check out the first video below, and if you have more time, then check out the whole episode.

We discussed many aspects of suicide glamorization on July 24th: from "13 Reasons Why" to general media representation and coverage of celebrity suicides. But the thing we wanted to discuss the most was Yami Kawaii - the Japanese counter-culture roughly translating to Death Cute.  I think the discussion was fascinating. Enjoy, let me know what you thought below, and don't forget to #bethelight



References/Notable Points:

  • BMJ : British Medical Journal. 1999;319(7206):337. 

More than 100000 sites about suicide now appear on the world wide web. Many of these seem to condone suicide and forbid entry to anyone offering to dissuade users from taking their own lives, said the report’s author, Dr Susan Thompson, senior house officer in child psychiatry at the Ealing, Hammersmith, and Fulham NHS Trust.