Following Your Dreams Won't Fix Everything but Accepting Them Will

Following Your Dreams Won't Fix Everything but Accepting Them Will

The most difficult thing to commit to, believe it or not, is failure. It’s hard on you mentally—it pulls on you, convincing you that you should commit to giving up. It feels easy at first because it’s all you know, but eventually, the weight of knowing you could have tried harder is too much to bear.

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Let's Stop Mental Health Gatekeeping

Let's Stop Mental Health Gatekeeping

I never fancied myself a doctor, not without earning it through years of intense schooling. I never pretended to know more than I do. I was ready to discount everything I knew from experience. How could it matter if an accredited university hadn’t double checked all of my work at some point? 
Cover Photo by: by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

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How Comparing Yourself To Others Is Worse Than Being Depressed

How Comparing Yourself To Others Is Worse Than Being Depressed

I think we can all agree that continuously pushing up against an invisible, always stronger foe is probably not the greatest for our mental health. I know we can all agree that no one wins the comparison game. Not even the person who feels briefly better because they explained how their plight is worse than whatever it is you have to deal with.
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Cover Photo by Nicolas Thomas on Unsplash

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Insomnia - What It Is And What Can Help - Twitch Ep 51

Howdy Friends!

Insomnia is a tricky thing. And it was about time we talked about it. When I can't sleep, it starts to feel like 

 everything is a copy of a copy of a copy.

everything is a copy of a copy of a copy.

As part of the process of working to feel better, I created a positive routine to replace the copy of a copy sleeplessness cycle I had fallen into. I outlined that routine in this post: Mxiety.com along with some research to explain why it seems to work so well. 

Also in this episode, I got to answer lot's of audience questions this time around too, including:

  • What's the best temperature to fall asleep in?
  • Does depression cause insomnia or does insomnia cause depression?
  • What to do if you lose a night of sleep?

As I mentioned, I am not perfect and can't always follow this exactly as I outlined. Sometimes, I break my own rules, while at other times, I am too stressed or depressed and nothing seems to work. All in all, I hope you find this helps. If not, let me know in the comments below about what seems to help you more!

Maybe, next episode I can answer yours! Send me questions and suggestions here
Another piece of news, I am now on Patreon. So if you are not very into Twitch but wanted to offer some support, head on over there to do so and get some sweet rewards, like being part of movie night and podcast only versions of these episodes.


References:

  Fredrik Valham, Carin Sahlin, Hans Stenlund, Karl A. Franklin; Ambient Temperature and Obstructive Sleep Apnea: Effects on Sleep, Sleep Apnea, and Morning Alertness, Sleep, Volume 35, Issue 4, 1 April 2012, Pages 513–517, https://doi.org/10.5665/sleep.1736

Google Fact Sheet

Matthew J. Edlund M.D. Is Depression Making Me Sleepless, Or Is Insomnia Making Me Depressed? Are depression and insomnia two sides of the same coin? Posted Apr 07, 2011

Mxiety's blog post

Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. “Sleepless and Depressed? CBT-I Can Help. New research suggests we can treat insomnia and depression at the same time.” Posted Oct 26, 2016

Taylor DJ1, Lichstein KL, Durrence HH, Reidel BW, Bush AJ., Epidemiology of insomnia, depression, and anxiety. Sleep. 2005 Nov;28(11):1457-64.

WebMD: Depression  Guide> Sleep and Depression

 

 

 

Being A Good Friend To Someone With Depression and Anxiety

Being A Good Friend To Someone With Depression and Anxiety

While I do not define myself by my diagnoses, I have found that I do better when the people surrounding me are understanding, forgiving and generally those who assume the best in others. I hope to reflect such kind traits in my own behavior too. It took a lot of thinking before I was able to identify what truly matters when it comes to building friendships.

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Comparing Myself To Celebrity Depression 'Success Stories'

Comparing Myself To Celebrity Depression 'Success Stories'

It’s hard to see something like that and not feel worse at the thought that this might not be the case with your own illness. As much as I hate to admit it, it makes me feel awful, even jealous, when I see stories about people who have suffered from depression at one point in their lives but no longer qualify for the diagnosis. The people who seemingly “beat it,” so to speak.

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It Only Takes One Good Doctor: How To Avoid The Bad Ones

It Only Takes One Good Doctor: How To Avoid The Bad Ones

Due to the chronic nature of my illnesses, I have seen many doctors. Over time, I have learned what kind of care works best for me. I am not here to admonish any one specialty, but rather celebrate those doctors that stand above the rest, to provide great care and fulfill their Hippocratic oath thoroughly.

To help you wade through and shorten the process of finding the right care for you, I have put together a helpful list of what to avoid and what to embrace in a doctor. 

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